self care rituals


It’s a New Year and a new beginning. Instead of making vague resolutions like “lose weight”, “exercise more” or “eat healthy”, which you’ll likely have forgotten by the end of January, start this year with something more concrete and long-lasting. Conscious self-care practices are a great foundation for wellness and keep you grounded and energised.


1. Pause

Give yourself permission to NOT feel motivated all the time. We all feel lost sometimes.

Recognise when you need to stop or pause and allow yourself to be in this place without feeling guilty about it. Give yourself the space you need, do some deep breathing and push the pause button.

Gradually, as your motivation returns ease yourself into taking the steps you need to get where you want to be.



2. Walk – Breathe – Walk – Heal • *´´¯`*•.¸¸.❧

Schedule time to walk outdoors in nature, even if it’s just around your garden.

When you walk at a steady pace and breathe deeply your heart gets a signal to slow down. As it slows, a soothing feeling of calm spreads through you, quelling that rush of stress hormones – adrenaline and cortisol.

As your heartbeat and breathing synchronise in slow calm waves, your blood pressure falls and your heart pumps stronger. The stress response is interrupted.



3. Firm Boundaries

Don’t say “Maybe” when you want to say “NO”.

Make time for yourself.

It’s OK to be alone, to retreat to nurture and renew yourself. It’s ok to miss a party, or a meeting, or even a family get-together.

Honouring your needs means setting and maintaining healthy boundaries. Which means saying “No” to what is not serving you, so you can say yes to more of what does.

Setting and holding the line of your boundaries is absolutely essential in developing healthy relationships with the people around you. Plus, it gives you space to breathe.  A boundary isn’t a wall but an invisible line that defines your personal space on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. It gives you room to breathe without being affected by what’s happening around you.

Boundaries are an essential part of Conscious Self-Care. They are healthy, normal and necessary. Developing and maintaining your boundaries means a happier and healthier you.



4. Get A Good Nights Sleep

When I asked my clients the one thing that has the greatest impact on their wellbeing and health, most answered more or better sleep. When your sleep is inadequate or poor quality it doesn’t matter how well you eat or exercise, your wellness will never be great.

Tonight, put away those work emails, turn off social media, leave the laundry for tomorrow, and gift yourself an early night. Curl up with a good book instead of your device and relax. You’ll wake tomorrow feeling great.

If falling asleep is difficult, a few drops of Roman Chamomile Essential Oil on a cotton pad beside your pillow helps you nod off.



5. Be Still

In this hyped-up world we’re switched on all the time so taking a brief break soothes our nervous system.

If there must be madness, time crunches and chaos in your life, then let there be chaos. But find the strength and stillness to be the eye inside the storm. Allow these things to happen around you, not to you.

Find somewhere quiet where you can be alone. Close the door on the world, switch off the phone and just sit. Enjoy the experience of just being with yourself.

Tune into your awareness and notice what you notice. What can you hear? Smell? Feel in your body? Bring your awareness closer and go a little deeper. Notice your emotions and how you respond. As you bring your awareness into laser-sharp precision you engage your Higher Self and inner wisdom.

Enjoy a few minutes reconnecting with your Heart in the peace and stillness.



6. Be Yourself

Stop comparing yourself with others. You’re on your own unique life journey, just as others are on theirs.

You have your own gifts, strengths, creativity, your own individuality. They are worthy, and they are yours.

Your life is a journey where you’ve struggled and persevered to win and achieve. Your achievements are every bit as deserving of appreciation as any you see in others.

Each moment of our life is unique and sacred. Envy steals those away from you. When we’re caught up in envy we don’t allow ourselves to appreciate our personal gifts and achievements.

Recognise that envy is a signpost to what you really want in life. Use it to guide you to take the actions needed to achieve your dreams.



7. Cut Yourself Some Slack

So many of us (perhaps all of us) are our own worst critics. Your version of bad, is someone else’s version of best. It’s all in the perspective.

Of course try your hardest, apply yourself. But always remember nothing is set in stone. ‘Mistakes’ are often disguised gifts. There are always more opportunities to try again if it doesn’t work out. Beating yourself up doesn’t fix it.

Tell the critics inside your head to “shush!” Move on, be kind to yourself, forgive yourself regularly, and be open to new ways and opportunities.

You’ve got this!!



8. Conscious Self Care

How often do your great intentions and big plans get sidelined because you ran out of time? Intentions and plans are great. But they’re way better if you can actually Make. Them. Happen.

It’s great to read self-care suggestions and you might even think about which self-care changes you COULD make. But it’s another thing altogether to actually implement them every day.

Often our lives are simply too busy to commit the time and space for ongoing deep self-care practices. We mean to look after ourselves, but our self-care needs end up at the bottom of our responsibility lists.

Instead of planning Big Self-Care Actions sprinkle Moments of Conscious Self-Care throughout your day.

At the beginning of your day, check your schedule for where you can add in small moments of self-care. They don’t need to be big blocks of time, a few minutes can work perfectly.

But, you’ve got to actually put it in your diary or it won’t happen…you know that!




We can’t be authentic when we use ‘self-love’ or ‘self-care’ as an excuse for losing ourselves in junk food or Netflix binges.

Stillness, sufficient sleep, strong boundaries, acknowledging our needs, and forgiveness, are just as important as healthy eating and exercise.

True Conscious Self-Care happens when we live in awareness. Only when we stand in our own personal power can we truly nurture, nourish, and love ourselves and others

Making YOU a priority keeps you grounded and happy in your day, so you can continue to care for those around you.




Like To Work With Me?

Would you love to develop deep Self-Care practices to keep you grounded, energised, and your heart singing?

Join me on the Indochine Queen Women’s Retreat in Vietnam in March 2019.

Find all the details here


self care retreat




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