Recently many of my friends, family and clients have seen major life challenges. Serious illness, death of a loved one, relationship breakdowns, and huge life changes like retirement or menopause, have disrupted their lives and caused worry and stress. Most people would describe a year filled with those experiences as “a disaster” or “the worst year of my life”. But by changing your perception of the events you also change the manner in which you move through them and forward. The key is to find the gift in problems.
A perception shift doesn’t change the painful process of grieving, or the difficulties associated with change. However by simply describing the experiences differently, as “a year of big changes” for instance, you change your perception of the events. This then allows you to recognise the gift within the experience. It allows you to find happiness again in spite of the pain.
This week the plaster cast around my broken arm will be removed, at last! Now a broken arm may seem slight in comparison to others’ problems. But it was pretty comprehensive and set at a weird angle which restricted me doing many things, including working, leaving me very frustrated.
So in meditation I asked for ‘the lesson in the broken arm’. Over a few days the message emerged. Embracing that message and working within that energy has given me great time and freedom for precious creative thought. It’s left me almost loving this problem! Happiness in spite of pain!
THE GIFT IN CHALLENGES
A problem free life is the impossible dream. There will always be difficulties to deal with no matter how successful or focused or spiritual you are. But the key to living happily is to look for the gift within all your problems.
The problems in our life are often just a signpost to let us know we need to reassess our life – our actions, beliefs, or attitudes. Often the appearance of problems marks a time when we need to let go of any parts of our life that are limiting us. These times provide us with an opportunity to surrender and open ourselves to unexpected experience through change. When we let go of our ego and surrender we can find peace.
Problems present two options. One option is that they can be stepping stones to uncover your gifts. The other is they can keep you locked into a cycle of fear. The choice is yours and the outcome depends upon how you decide to view the problem.
I spent a great deal of my life waiting for the time to arrive when I’d be ‘grown up’ and able to sail through life without many problems. I expected if problems DID occur in my life, I’d have the knowledge and resources to deal with them easily without a huge impact on me.
But not so! I’ve come to realise that the main gift of life is the chance to experience. Every day offers me new experience, even when I am doing the same mundane tasks I do day after day. In every minute there is the possibility of new insight, even while I’m doing little mundane things. And the understanding that comes with new insight always leads to new thoughts and new behaviour.
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